The outpouring of love and emotion at weddings can feel a little overwhelming when you’re single. Instead of feeling awkward, however, there are lots of ways to survive weddings without a plus one, ensuring that you have plenty of fun while celebrating the happy couples in your life. Here CashLady provides the single person’s guide to surviving wedding season.
Surviving wedding season when you’re single
It’s perfectly natural to worry when a wedding invitation comes through the door addressed only to you.
Yet as cost-conscious couples seek to slash wedding costs, you may find that you are not the only person there without a date on their arm.
The rise of, ‘no ring, no bring,’ guest lists
The increasing popularity of ‘no ring, no bring,’ guest lists means that even partnered up guests are frequently invited to nuptials without their dates.
Reluctant to spend up to £100 a head for somebody that they have never met, the bride and groom only invite partners that are in serious committed relationships, married, or both already know the happy couple.
Attending weddings as a single person
Looking and feeling your best
If your confidence is low or you feel nervous about surviving wedding season and going it alone then it can help to dress up and get properly pampered so that you feel at your best.
What you wear has a significant impact on how you feel and so put on something that makes you feel fabulous and your most confident.
When you don’t know anybody on the guest list
You may know other people on the guest list through the couple getting married, even if you have only met them briefly.
Ask the bride or groom if anyone else is going alone and suggest that you meet briefly before the ceremony or are seated to next to one another at dinner.
Ideally, your hosts will already have thought of this already and may suggest introducing you before the wedding.
Even saying a quick hello through Facebook before the day of the nuptials will help relieve the anxiety of not knowing anyone there.
Offering to help with the wedding preparations
If you are concerned about feeling isolated or awkward at the wedding then offering to help with a wedding task will keep you busy and focus your attention on the big day.
You could offer to supply the confetti, which will also provide a fun and natural way to meet your fellow guests as you hand it out.
Meeting new people and mingling can help with surviving wedding season
Most people feel nervous about meeting new people and mingling so remember that you are not alone.
During cocktail hour try making small talk with anyone else that might have arrived solo or is sitting by themselves.
Asking a few simple questions is an easy way to get a conversation started and at weddings, you have a ready-made topic – you can begin by asking how they know the couple getting married!
Enjoying the bubbles
Whether you are enjoying life as a single person or consciously seeking, ‘the one,’ flying solo at a wedding can bring up a whole mix of emotions, including loneliness.
Too much alcohol can heighten these negative feelings and so while you may want to enjoy a couple of drinks, try to monitor your intake and guzzle plenty of water between cocktails.
Having fun at weddings as a single person
Weddings are a celebration of love and happiness and a great excuse for a good party.
The day isn’t about you but it’s about people that you care about so try and put yourself to the side and embrace the day with a smile.
As a single person it’s important to socialise and meet new people and so take the opportunity to make new friends and let loose on the dance floor.
The day after the wedding
If you anticipate that the wedding could be difficult for you then make plans to do something enjoyable the day afterwards, like meeting friends to lift your spirits and remind you of all the good things that you have going on.